Tuesday, 22 March 2016

How to deal with pressure


I have a love-hate relationship with pressure and unfortunately, feeling stressed or like there's always something to be done is pretty much inevitable nowadays. Things such as exams or presentations used to send me into shock - I had no idea what to say, and the feeling of being evaluated or judged used to make me feel useless, and dumb. 

My brain would freeze and anything in my head would just vanish. Having chosen a degree that requires presenting everywhere (as a Tour Guide I absolutely have to - yeah, I know, smart of me to chose something so nerve wrecking, right?), was the key for me to getingt over it as much as possible.

We've all been there at a point or another: be that deadlines at work, your blog, family issues which need organizing or even your own personal goals, we often forget to remember to just sit back and relax. Moreoften, we forget what's going on and it makes matters worse because we let it get one on us. Seriously - we'll always be stressed about something, and how we deal with it can minimize the situation and cope with it better.

I'll be honest with you - these past three weeks have been crap. Okay. They've been good since I'm a happy camper. But at the same time, stress wise, they've been awful. Better yet, it has nothing to do with my outside life, but my blogging life.

Before we go any futher, let me summarize what's been going on with me: I've been lacking in the blogging world. I've always been so organized, and I've always had everything done on time, with time to spare. But, having had my life turned upside down - it hasn't been easy. And I've literally had to choose between sleeping or blogging.

While having a new job and one that I love at that is great, adapting to it has made alot of things difficult. Especially because it's one hour away and when I get home, I have dinner, organize my life for the next day, and then go to sleep.

I also go on dates, but that's a whole another story for another time.

Still, that leaves me no time to live never mind do everything that blogging requires - and we all know how much there is to be done. I've done nothing at all and at the end of the day, that's what's been haunting me anywhere I go.


Anyway - starting tomorrow that's hopefully going to change and allow me to catch up on everything I've been missing out on. And the thought of that, is pretty darn stressing as there's so much I left behind, and so much that I need to do to take me back to where I was three weeks ago. 

Feeling disappointed in myself, and having had to deal with this for the past weeks have led me to realize that it's okay. It's okay to not always be on time, to not always be able to do what I want to do - to not be perfect. Life happens, and sometimes we need to make certain choices in life that we know we'll be able to sleep with.

I feel like the main key to getting over stress, or minimizing the effects that it has on us, is identifying exactly what is stressing us out. And then asking: is it really that important? Is it going to matter in X years? Will we remember what we were so stressed about in 5 weeks? Will we think back with a "I was so silly back then" thought? The answer to most of these questions is no. 

Stress is good up to a point - I've read alot of studies saying that we need to feel a certain amount of stress to perform as good as we need to. In fact, some of our best ideas pop up when we're stressed because it heightens our capacities to think. And if it's the type of stress that you can control, then it's pretty harmless to begin with. The problem here is letting it take over our lives.

 We just need to know how to balance it. I've gathered a list of the things I try to remember when I feel like my world is about to end. And things I try to go by everyday.

How I deal with pressure/stress:

#1 Getting enough sleep (Saw a big difference last week when I was sleeping about 5 hours a night);
#2 Giving yourself space to not think about it;
#3 Eating DARK chocolate (I mean dark chocolate. It helps the brain function better);
#4 Disconnecting from the world atleast once a week (I just turn everything off);
#5 Making sure you take time to do what you really love to do;
#6 Stop trying to be perfect (It's exhausting);
#7 Slow down (breath. breath. breath);
#8 Prioritize yourself (I mean sometimes, doesn't need to be 24/7);
#9 Don't be as easily distracted (this will stop you from getting anything accomplished in the first place);
#10 Remember that it's okay. Life goes on.

Ella x

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2 comments

  1. Hey Ella,
    Sorry to hear you've been feeling so stressed out. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You can still prioritize. You need to be happy, less stressdd and in a place where you feel good before being able to focus on having a good relationship.
    And, don't feel bad or disappointed. The first thing is realizing what doesn't work so that you can destress and start your mind fresh! And yeah, dark chocolate helps!
    Xo,
    Miki
    http://mikialamode.com

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  2. Hey Ella,
    Sorry to hear you've been feeling so stressed out. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You can still prioritize. You need to be happy, less stressdd and in a place where you feel good before being able to focus on having a good relationship.
    And, don't feel bad or disappointed. The first thing is realizing what doesn't work so that you can destress and start your mind fresh! And yeah, dark chocolate helps!
    Xo,
    Miki
    http://mikialamode.com

    ReplyDelete

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