Thursday, 24 December 2015

Questions everyone dreads getting asked during Christmas

Christmas day. It's exactly what everyone thinks it's going to be like:  definitely noisy, beyond social and inescapably materialistic - let's not be judgemental, everyone at a point or another, thinks about what they're going to get for Christmas. It's completely ok. I'm curious too.

The thing is, everything is planned to a tee - from the presents, to what we're doing, to the food, who we're spending it with, to the outfit and the makeup. Even the awkward questions you're bond to get asked.

I've been asked my fair fair of questions throughout all of my life but it doesn't get worse than that family member who you haven't seen since last Christmas, that's more curious than you wish they were. 

These are four questions I know most people dread to be asked. But questions that are going to make their way onto the Christmas table nonetheless. Don't worry - I'm with you.

1. The Relationship Status.

I've been there, done that. I feel like, at 23, I'm expected to be in a long last relationship - getting ready to get married and have kids. Well I'm not. I'm very very single - and guess what? I don't mind. But they mind. And they ask and ask and ask. And it always goes the same way everytime "Got a boyfriend yet? What's his name? When can we meet?" - I only roll my eyes and keep stuffing my face.

To those of you who are in a relationship and keep getting the "when's the wedding" or "when are you having kids" questions - I feel for you too. Nosy people, what can we do, right? (roll our eyes or smile politely and change the subject and hope they don't bring it up again. Which they will.) 

2. The 'more?'

I know I eat alot. I like eating. No - I love eating. And I absolutely love Christmas food. It's like everything I desire most in two days. Of course I'm going to eat. Will I regret it the next day? Maybe. But I'll still enjoy it while I can. I work out enough that allows me to eat whatever I want at least once a year. 

The thing with me is - I use to be overweight. And now I'm not, but it's like they're afraid I'll go back to where I was a year and a half ago. While I get it, I don't like it. Please stop or I'll just ask 'why' and things will get real awkward, real soon.

3. The 'what's going on with your life?'

This is a pretty average one but one I always dread nonetheless. I don't know what's going on in my life. I don't have it all figured out - no matter how much I wish I did. And I don't need to know it all at 23. So stop asking the same question over and over again - the answer will always be the same. I laugh. Then frown. Then end with an "I don't know". 

4. The 'what did you get for Christmas?'

I'm at fault for asking this too. I'll admit - I'm a really really curious person. But I usually do it to people I'm really close to - immediate family (and I always know anyway) and bestfriends. That's how far it goes. Some people don't really feel comfortable answering this for various different reasons - maybe they didn't get one or they don't want the follow up 'how did they afford that' or 'you only got that?' questions. If you're not comfortable answering, you don't have to. Or just ask why they want to know. Or change the subject.


Before going any further though, let's all just remember that some people aren't fortunate enough to spend it with their loved ones, and others while surrounded by alot of people, end up feeling lonely. I spend the 24th and 25th, going from house to house, seeing different friends and family, and at times I've felt just as alone as if I were in my room by myself. 

All I ask is that you pay a little bit of attention to those around you. If you know someone is spending it by themselves - try asking them if they want to come over. I've always heard 'If there's enough for 4, there'll be enough for 5." Or just keep them company. Or smile at someone. Sometimes that's all they need.

I also know that for a lot of people, this is a really difficult time - but please get up. Do something you enjoy doing, whether that's taking a walk, watching videos on youtube, reading a book, drawing, taking pictures, playing music, playing on your phone, writing. Do something. Yes, give yourself time to feel sad - but once that's done and over with, get up. Everything will be ok. It'll also be over soon. 

I'm only a click away if you ever need anything or anyone to talk to. Don't ever hesitate.

What questions are the absolute worst for you? How do you deal with those?
Hope everyone is well and have a very Merry Christmas.

Ella x

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  1. i get the question "when is the wedding" haha i dont even know yet for sure! when I know I will tell you, chill! haha hope you had a good xmas lovely!
    Pam xo/ Pam Scalfi♥

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    1. It's one of the things that annoy me most - being asked things that should be told if and when I please. I got most of them, except the food one (although I did get some looks whenever I went to grab more cake) ahaha

      I did lovely. Thank you so much. I hope you had a good Christmas yourself babe!

      Ella x

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  2. I usually get the 'what's going on with your life' throughout the year, or even how old are you, the latter for which I just make up an age haha :)

    Velvet Blush

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    1. Don't you worry, I think I get it everytime I'm with someone I haven't seen for a while. Should I tell them about blogging? ahah Hope you had a good Christmas lovely.

      Ella x

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    1. Thank you! And I'll have a look.
      Ella x

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  4. I have had my fair share of "when is the wedding" /"will the kids come" questions, and now that I am married and the kids are there, they are just replaced with similar annoying and nosy questions. As you said: Just roll your eyes and keep eating.

    Linda, Libra, Loca: Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

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    1. Get ready! The dating questions come far too early than they should - sometimes jokingly "aw who's your boyfriend, do you hold hands". I feel like I started getting it around age 5. I see it with my little cousins now. Ahahaha it's no harm but when you're 23 and as single as it gets, it starts getting annoying.

      (always keep eating! always!)

      Ella x

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  5. I love this post! I don't celebrate christmas so I never thought of how some people may not like the "what did you get for christmas" question, I usually always see people excited to share what they got so thanks for talking about that! Hope you had a wonderful Christmas!

    Yousra | Mystic Tales

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    1. I hated getting asked what I got for Christmas when I was younger - my family never had alot of money and even though I've always been fortunate enough to get things I love, I felt like I didn't have to explain people why and how I got what I did. And I didn't want others to make me feel like I didn't get enough - I did. Now I'm not as annoyed, I'm not a kid anymore and I love reading what people get myself. But it's one thing sharing because you want, or sharing because you feel like you have to.

      I'm rambling anyway. Thank you so much love, I did have a wonderful Christmas. MY favourite part is always eating.

      I know you don't celebrate, but I hope you had a lovely week yourself.

      Ella x

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